How To Talk Dirty Guide: What To Do & Examples Of What To Say

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The following phrases are broken into different categories to get you started. Just go slow, but prepared to build some serious sexual heat in using them. If you’re a man looking for more ways to add some oomph to your sex life, you should check out Supercharge Your Sex Life. It will change you, your partner’s (and your neighbours’) lives forever.

What are some ways to talk dirty?

• This isn’t a “trick” for getting him horny, but a way to wake up latent, pent-up sexual arousal.
• I’m so shy, but you have no idea what I’m thinking.
• To take the guesswork out of what turns your partner on, Dr. Jansen says coupled clients can create “Yes, No, Maybe” fantasy lists as an exercise.
• Would they like you to do something that turns you on?
• It doesn’t ruin the mood to check in… it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.
• Imagine saying, «I want to stimulate your mammary glands with my oral cavity.» It’s accurate—but far from sexy.

I really liked it when we [insert sexual activity]. When you get here, I’m going to [insert sexual activity]. Remember last night when we [insert sexual activity]? It’s that magical feeling that keeps you thinking about each other, wanting to be physically close and gets you completely aroused when you’re in each others company. Instead of always trying to rip each others clothes off, you’re both struggling to get aroused and get in the mood for sex. You may have even tried multiple “tricks” or “formulas” you learned online to get the spark back…but it didn’t work.

• Because when you’re in the heat of the moment, you’re totally free to push the envelope on just how dirty and intense you can get.
• Unless he has insane goofball rizz, it might not land right.
• And the flip side of that is that it can also be exciting to have someone want you, when you don’t know they want you right?
• You don’t have to ram sexuality down his throat with your dirty talk.

Find Balance In Life & Love.

You may then come up with your own naughty phrases. This will make your sex more enjoyable, but also build up sexual tension in the form of erotic foreplay so that he is thinking about having sex with you even when he’s not actively engaged in the act. Start small, ramp up over time, and ask your partner (outside of your sexual play) if they have any preferences as to the words that you do or don’t use in your dirty talk repertoire. Whether you’re starting out with dirty talk for the first time ever, or you’re starting to have sex with a new partner and just want to slowly test the waters, the following phrases have you covered.

Advanced Tips & Tricks You Can Try

And I’m wondering if it’s because I’m under a little bit of stress, and I want multiple senses to kind of overwhelm me. So yeah I wanna hear things, I wanna feel things physically, but I also need to see things. Which is brand new, this just started a couple of weeks ago.

The timing is almost more important than what you actually say. If your partner is talking or doing something and you try to say something, it’ll go unheard. Some words sound a lot sexier and arouse your partner when you say them in your horny voice.

However, I know it can take a minute to get the hang of it and let the naughty juices start flowing before you feel comfortable ad-libbing your own. Dirty talk phrases like this, he notes, are great ways to begin role-playing or exploring the concept of control. “Someone who is high-powered in their day-to-day lives, for example, might get excited when their partner uses dirty talk to assert dominance or vice versa,” he says. Just be sure to be safe, be respectful, and listen carefully. If you want to compliment your partner in your dirty talk, you don’t necessarily have to talk about long his member is or how voluptuous her breasts are. You can keep it simple by just saying how much you love their body.